Healthy competition vs Envy


So, I was having a conversation with a group of ladies and this was the topic of the day. It was understood at the end of the conversation that a lot of people silently compete with their friends or loved ones. Personally, I think its inevitable to do so but the point I want to arrive at is what it drives you to do afterwards. Competition isn’t always a bad thing, it can help keep you at your feet but it can also make you miss your step, it all depends on you. people get motivated from competition as it makes them focus twice as hard while others get distracted by it and eventually start craving what the other person has. Your friend just secured a new job/business, you don’t acknowledge the hard work that they put in silence, now its paying off and you get jealous. How convenient? you don’t know what that job requires that you might not be willing to deal with. Your friend just got engaged after dating for a few months, so you put pressure on your bf, while you could just continue to nurture your own relationship till it matures in its own time. Your friend might have become a successful fashion model at 18 while you are still struggling at your parents house, trying to make ends meet but your situation could be preparing you for a greater future. Sometimes you’re working at a job with a very low income and surviving on very little, but God could be teaching you resilience and how to manage your finances first before giving you more. Don’t ask for more when you haven’t mastered how to handle less. Focus on why you are in a situation and not the situation itself, theres always something to learn at every stage of our life. Life can be very intimidating, especially when you look around you and everyone else seems to be excelling at his or her various fields, you go online and it saddens you that everyone is one step closer to who they want to be except you, but keep going you’re doing great. You’re the first born and you always wondered why you always had to be the one taking care of your younger siblings even though you’re clearly still a kid, taking them to the hospital and being accountable for the household. When will you realize that comparison is the thief of all joy? Have you ever wondered if all these are leadership traits the man up there is trying to instill in you for a great tomorrow? Perhaps you’re going to be a CEO or hold a public office? You were raped as a child, became a drug addict, became a cultist in uni and now you’re depressed staring at your friends doing better than you, driving huge cars and running businesses. Ever wondered if you could eventually be called to be a leader, (a motivational speaker or man/woman of God), and what is more inspiring than a person who has been there and seen it all but is now on the other side? I don’t know exactly what you’re going through but your experiences are not mere coincidences; they are footprints to your future. Nothing you’ve been through will be wasted, every person has had some experiences that elicited the question “why am I going through this?” our difficulties shape our lives. Whether you grew up poor, middle class or wealthy, your experiences play a role in your life. There are different paths to take, people to meet, and circumstances to overcome that eventually leads to our purpose in life, your journey is totally different from the next person. Eventually you’d find out why you had to go through what you did, lessons had to be learnt, skills had to be practiced, patience had to be taught and its your job to use that to propel you forward. When you’re blessed to operate in destiny you can look back and see how all of them helped position you. You start to realize that the situations that looked like delays actually were opportunities to grow, gain experience and meet people who would help you later in life. Even the things and experiences you didn’t want, if you allow them, can be building blocks to a stronger and better you. When your own journey is not taking the straight course you’d like, its easy to focus on what others are doing but cultivate the ability to stay on track, your track and keep moving forward. Your friend has just reached a milestone in his/her life and if you get distracted staring at their glory for too long you could miss yours just a few steps ahead. Life is a journey, and once you have a vision then all you really need is persistence. It might not look or sound convincing to others presently but its your vision not theirs and if you keep pushing daily, taking those baby steps, little by little the picture starts to become clearer and it all starts to make sense. Sometimes God hides us for months, even years, no one notices your greatness not even your family so don’t force it on them. No one can tell a lady is in the early stages of pregnancy till she’s a couple months gone and actually starts “showing”. So darling, as long as you still have breath in you, keep nurturing that vision you’re pregnant with, and when the time is right the world will seek you. As a believer of purpose I strongly believe we all have different paths in this thing called life, and while you can take a look and see a friend soaring, its expected for you to congratulate them and be glad because its clear God is in your neighbour hood and patiently wait for your turn, because its coming. 🙂

Thanks for reading..

E Bozimo.

Love &Light xo

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